If you missed it…our previous blog was on Autism in Young Children. Read the story at: Brainy Kids
Also as part of Brain Week we’re going to explore mental health. Specifically, Depression.
Everyday life is a frenetic rush for most of us readers. Getting errands done, picking up the kids, checking off our to-dos. Seldom does one have time to slow down for any extended period-heck just the thought of it may even be so abnormal/weird-I know I think that! It’s a fact though that half the people with depression are without employment and so life in the slow lane is a place one can definitely go to-and it’s not what you think.
Waking up and just not feeling it. Not knowing what to do with your life so you go back to sleep. Feeling like you have no friends and noone to speak to-even just to hang out is a mission. Your drive and zest for life just ain’t there and so following through with tasks is a big ask. Compulsive drinking/gambling, reckless driving can sometimes be conduits of escape though shortlived.
Do you know someone like this? As cheesy as it sounds but there are many support lines one can call such as Beyond Blue, LifeLine, as well as chat rooms such as HeadSpace, etc… The sooner contact is made, the better the outcomes as depression can spiral out other aspects of life: relationships, job commitments, and physical health. Think about it: you don’t feel like going out with friends-next time they don’t invite you out; you are grouchy to your partner-all because you haven’t been sleeping enough; or you oversleep and keep missing your work appointments-causing you to lose your job; etc..
Personally I know of someone who withdrew completely from our social circle. Before he was the chirpy guy, loud and socially attuned. Now quite stunted in his communication. What happened? He had led himself to believe that he wasn’t enough for any girl-he was single. With the low self-esteem, he turned to alcohol. From there he began a downward spiral-he let go of work commitments as well as TAFE. He’s undergoing treatment now but it’s a long time coming.
Another close female friend went through a bad break up and her ex-boyfriend became quite physically abusive. She’s a young girl in her twenties and in the prime of her life with plenty of friends. After the breakup she felt she could no longer trust her friends. Her social life began a downward spiral and she admitted herself to hospital. Luckily she got treatment early on but the after effects, anxiety, and general caution with peers is always there.
As you can see depression can stem from life events-breakup, divorce, loss. Some of the risk factors that can add to the stressful event include:
- living in isolation
- family history of depression
- financial strain
- chronic pain
- few social connections
If you know someone going through a tough time, these are some of the things YOU can do to make a positive impact:
- Reach out and listen. Start the conversation. Meet for lunch.
- Encourage them to get moving (I always like to say motion is emotion)
- Help them reconnect with nature/volunteer together/share in a hobby you once enjoyed.
Whatever you do, don’t give up on that person! Chances are they just don’t know how to reconnect. Importantly, don’t feel like you need to fix the problem or provide solutions. A listening ear can be huge solace for those who are lonely.